Friends

One of the blogs that I read daily is Virginia Belle I love to read her posts as she often relates these great and funny conversations with her brain. Today she has posted on friendships and it has gotten me thinking about the friendships that I have currently, have let go of, and been dumped from in in the past.

I grew up fairly isolated (in my opinion) from others. My parents chose to home school us as they felt that public schools would not provide the best education possible (not for religious reasons as many do). I played with Smug-Sister and brother. We were friends with this other family, who had two daughters and a son all the same sexes and ages as us. We became each others best friends! Our families spent every major holiday together and we were together every few days.

When I was about 13-14, their Dad got a job in another state and they moved about 6 hours away. I was really nervous that the friendship would falter, but it didn't. I think that when someone is as close as family for your whole life, friendship just doesn't fade. Jen and I would sometimes go a year or more between phone calls and several years between visits, but whenever we talked or got together, it was like we had never been apart! She knows and loves me just like my family and I consider her more of a sister than a friend - she is a totally concrete part of my life.

As for other friendships, they would not prove to be of the same level. I decided to attend public school during my sophomore year of high school and a portion of my junior year. I made several friends, none of which held once I left the public school system. I got my first job at 16 and made several friends, one closer than the rest - she ditched me for a boyfriend and I have never heard from her since. All the rest faded away.

I have made friends at various jobs and in classes that I have taken, but none seemed to hold. I always got "dumped", as in one day the friend stopped calling, stopped returning messages and fell out of my life. If I have ever run into that person somewhere, they always lament the loss of my friendship and that we should "totally get together sometime!" It never happens.

I got out of the habit of looking for friends. I was fully consumed with my job (or in some cases 3), working on my degree and whatever boyfriend I was seeing, so I was not lonely. I actually preferred to be on my own. When I was not working, studying, cleaning my house, or whatever, I was tired, and did not want to try to hit the bar scene - I wanted to watch TV and sleep!!

I met miss Sassy this first night of the hard core, balls to the wall, finish that damn degree program and we were part of the same study group. It took a while before we warmed up to being really close friends, but I feel like she is one of those one-in-a-million kind of friends and I plan on working hard to stay her friend - even if she decides to move to Europe!

My life has since calmed down a bit - I have completed my BBA degree and have almost completed the wedding planning craziness. So I have been thinking that perhaps I should get a hobby of some kind! Getting into something fun would be a great way to meet people and make some new friends - only.... I am not sure that I want or need any!!

I have a tight knit group of people that I love and love me back - what more could a person want? I have heard that people come and go in your life to help you learn some cosmic lesson and if that is true, people will come and go in my life in the that they are meant to.

I don't think that I am going to worry about it!

UPDATE:

While I was typing this, I received a series of e-mails that has prompted me to sign up for the MBA program - I guess I can put the hobby hunt on hold for a while!! :)